As some of you know, I also own the http://ebaypowersellerprofits.com/ site. Recently, I did a series of videos on mindset, and thought it would be important to share those with you. Mindset is one of the most important factors for success. Hope you enjoy learning from the dolphin, just like I did.

Does your ego let you complain constantly? Does it rob you of the peace and happiness that you seek?

Think about all of the persistent complaints that you have, ones that you complain about over and over again, either to yourself or others.

Some examples would be my spouse never does what I ask of them, my child is always late, I can’t get my co-workers to be supportive of each other, etc.

Take a moment and write down several of your favorites to test the validity of the balance of the discussion.

What you might now realize is that this is the ego talking. Every time that you have a persistent complaint, you get a payoff, and there is a cost to it. It appears as if you want whatever you are complaining about to stop, but in reality, that is not what you want. You want the payoff that comes with the complaint.

Tell me about payoffs, what are they? There are many but here is a prime example. You are right about whatever you are complaining about, thus making the other party wrong or at fault. You validate yourself at the expense of someone else.

You settle for complaining rather than taking action. Rather than confront an issue, you decide to play it safe, and blame others 0D rather than take responsibility.

Due to taking action, you continue complaining and it’s the playoff that keeps you addicted to the game, even though there is a cost to you. The ego wins again.

Next, the victim mentality comes in. You feel powerless and frustrated. Joy, peace and satisfaction are gone when you feel like a victim.

Unless you stop and evaluate the costs of your complaining, you‘ll just continue on and keep letting your ego win. If you can deal with the situation you are complaining about, deal with it. Confront the issues, person or actions in order to resolve the situation.

If you can’t do it, just accept the situation and move on with your life. Keep the
peace, joy and serenity that you were destined to enjoy!

Until next time !!!

Does your ego let you complain constantly? Does it rob you of the peace and happiness that you seek?

Think about all of the persistent complaints that you have, ones that you complain about over and over again, either to yourself or others.

Some examples would be my spouse never does what I ask of them, my child
is always late, I can’t get my co-workers to be supportive of each other, etc.

Take a moment and write down several of your favorites to test the validity of the balance of the discussion.

What you might now realize is that this is the ego talking. Every time that you have a persistent complaint, you get a payoff, and there is a cost to it. It appears as if you want whatever you are complaining about to stop, but in reality, that is not what you want. You want the payoff that comes with the complaint.

Tell me about payoffs, what are they? There are many but here is a prime example. You are right about whatever you are complaining about, thus making the other party wrong or at fault. You validate yourself at the expense of someone else.

You settle for complaining rather than taking action. Rather than confront an issue, you decide to play it safe, and blame others 0D rather than take responsibility.

Due to taking action, you continue complaining and it’s the playoff that keeps you addicted to the game, even though there is a cost to you. The ego wins again.

Next, the victim mentality comes in. You feel powerless and frustrated. Joy, peace and satisfaction are gone when you feel like a victim.

Unless you stop and evaluate the costs of your complaining, you‘ll just continue on and keep letting your ego win. If you can deal with the situation you are complaining about, deal with it. Confront the issues, person or actions in order to resolve the situation. If you can’t do it, just accept the situation and move on with your life. Keep the
peace, joy and serenity that you were destined to enjoy!

Until next time!!

We have all experienced the power of a good and positive statement about ourselves. When someone tells us we are great at doing something, we feel great about that affirmation, we believe it. Say someone said you were a really good dancer. Pretty soon, we want to continue to be good dancers, so we work on being a good dancer and people constantly tell us how great we are. This constant repetition makes it a part of us. We fully believe and embody being a good dancer.

That example is the power of an affirmation. It can help transform us for the better, maneuver us
towards the good and the positive. However, that example discussed someone else giving us an
affirmation. What happens during the times that no one is around? Or if no one is there to reinforce your actions? Well, the answer is simple: affirm yourself!

We can affirm ourselves daily. Doing this for ourselves will help transform us the way other
affirmations do, and it will help us constantly become better. Some people feel silly doing this,
however, or feel that if they tell themselves something, it doesn’t really work. So how do we
concretely affirm ourselves and give our affirmations the same power it would as if someone else had said it? Again the answer is simple: write it down!

Writing down our affirmations helps us see the positive statement exactly. It gives us encouragement, and slowly helps us believe the statement to be true. Every affirmation statement has power, even if  it is from yourself to yourself. Writing it down gives it that power.

When writing down your affirmations in order to give it power and help it transform your life, the
first thing you have to do is write yourself a letter. In this letter, visualize your affirmation.

Explain to yourself why you should believe this statement (and make sure the statement is believable!

If it is not believable, your subconscious will reject it.) Make sure the letter is filled with
positive statements, ones that deny your current situation or focus on what you want and not what you want to get rid of. For example, write to yourself: “you are not a bad dancer (this is denying your possible current situation of believing you are a bad dancer), and in fact you have the power to become the best dancer in your class (this is focusing on what you want to happen).”

After you’ve written yourself a letter, do something that makes your affirmation concrete and put it up. Some people like hanging an inspirational message that reminds them of their affirmation or paint a picture that reminds them of the positive statement. Setting up a reminder of your affirmation will help you counter any negative energy or thoughts that you may have regarding the statement.

Next, repeat your affirmation to yourself. You may want to say it to yourself in the mirror every
morning when you get ready for work (make sure you say it several times) or record it onto a tape, and listen to it a few times a day. Some people like writing it down everyday, and following the written statement with their thoughts regarding the affirmation for the day. The constant repetition of your affirmation will help you the way it did before. You will strive to make sure it is true, you will believe it to be true, and then you will embody it as a truth.

Finally, ask yourself what needs to be done and do it! Make sure you practice your affirmation or do

something concrete, that will make it a truth, everyday. This means that everyday, you will be doing something that turns your affirmation into a reality.

We often hear about the power of love. But do we really know what that means or what the power is all about? Often, when people talk about love, the immediately think about romantic love. While this may be a wonderful type of love, and passion is born from it, it is a different type of love that has true power.

Scientifically, it has been discovered that acts of love are good for the health. It is well known to scientists (due to an old and reckless experiment) that babies who are not given affection simply do not thrive or survive, even if given all the nutrients needed. Hugs, cuddling, and holding hands, are needed by infants, children, and adults in order to be emotionally and psychologically happy and stable. Physical affection from others (pets included) makes a person happier and healthier.

Touch has this effect on us because when we are given a loving gesture, oxytocin (the love drug) is naturally released in our brain. It makes us feel good and it releases dopamine, which lowers the levels of stress hormones in the body. This makes us healthier.

Apart from stress, however, frequent physical affection sis also known to improve someone’s mood (due to the dopamine), reduce the blood pressure (has a calming effect on a person), increase tolerance for pain (perhaps because we are filled with happiness and knowledge of our social ties to a person can help us through difficult, as seen in a study conducted by UCLA), and is also linked to speeding up the healing time of wounds! Seems like love is a powerful drug and vitamin rolled into one!

The positive effects of frequent contact does not only occur in humans, but is also seen in animals. In terms of psychological health, love plays an important role in our relationships. It is linked to how much we are able to trust others. Those who receive a lot of physical affection are more trusting, while those who do not get even the bare minimum are less trusting towards people.

Health and science aside, however, love has a power to bring peace to your life. It can strengthen a person in almost every way, and can make you do things you never though you would do. It has the power to make you think of the other, putting them first before yourself, therefor making both their life and yours extraordinary.

Love is forceful and enduring, which is why nothing can stand in its way. It is positive, which always works to give the upper hand to those who find themselves in and with love.

Many people deny it, and you probably do too, but deep down inside we all know that we have a certain zone of comfort that we’re not willing to step out of. We acquire our comfort zone almost from the moment we are born. How we are raised, the school we go to, the friends we make, the food we eat, and so many other small little factors contribute to the building of our comfort zone.

As we settle into this zone, we get comfortable, become happy, and go day by day in our little bubbles. However, we aren’t really living. We’re not experiencing anything new. This is because everything that is happening within our bubble are things we can predict or things we’ve already experienced. To truly live, we have to step out of this bubble, break it, even. Anything new and exciting lies beyond our zone of comfort. Anything liberating and wonderful depends on our destroying our happy sphere, and everything we need to have a memorable lifetime depends on our taking a chance beyond what we know.
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